First, listen to this:
Cheryl Strayed on the Long Form Podcast.
(click on this link, and not the picture below, because I am a Luddite.)

It’s a 1:43 minute commitment. Find the time, and do it.
If you need to be sold on the exercise, read this:
Maria Popova’s/BrainPicking’s transcription of the “most shimmering parts” of the podcast…
… which will make you find the time to listen to the podcast.
Then, supplement with
Write Like a Motherfucker
…and quickly order your copy of Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Life and Love by Dear Sugar.
mjc
About mjanecolette
Writer. Reader. Angster. Reformed Bohemian (not). Author of the erotic romance TELL ME, the erotic tragedy (with a happy ending) CONSEQUENCES (of defensive adultery), the award-winning rom-com (she's versatile) CHERRY PIE CURE, and TEXT ME, CUPID--a (slightly dirty) love story for 21st century adults who don't believe in love... but want it anyway. A sought-after speaker and presenter, Colette is also the author of the Dirty Writing Secrets Series, which includes the non-fiction collection of essays ROUGH DRAFT CONFESSIONS: not a guide to writing and selling erotica and romance but full of inside inside anyway, 101 FLIRTY WRITING PROMPTS TO SEDUCE YOUR MUSE, and ORGANIZED CREATIVE. She's also the curator of the fab YYC Queer Writers anthologies Queer Christmas in Cowtown, Screw Chocolate, and A Queer Summer Night's in Cowtown. Releasing Spring 2020: CUPID IN MONTE CARLO.